Gravesite Of Johnny Cash & June Carter Cash

Are you a fan of Johnny Cash?

Johnny Cash burial site

Johnny Cash grave site

A few days ago, I played tourist in my hometown of Hendersonville, Tennessee. Although I’ve lived here for more than five years, I had never visited the gravesite of Johnny Cash and June Carter Cash. I have seen the Cash’s house on the lake, though.

The graves are at the Hendersonville Memory Gardens, located just 25 minutes north of Nashville. It’s a beautiful final resting place for two of the greatest legends in country music.

Johnny Cash burial site

Johnny Cash burial site

When I arrived, not a single person was around. This place is very peaceful and serene. I parked at the funeral home and walked just a short distance (slightly uphill) until I found the gravesite.  It’s in the center of the cemetery, straight across from the main entrance.

Johnny Cash Burial Site

The gravesite of Johnny Cash is simple but pretty and you could see that visitors had left flowers.

Johnny Cash burial site

Johnny cash burial site

Some of their family members are buried here as well.  Reba Cash Hancock (Johnny’s sister) is buried right next to Johnny and June.

Johnny Cash burial site

There are a few other music legends who rest here – Merle Kilgore, Ferlin Husky, and Sheb Wooley.

Johnny cash grave site

While there, I said a prayer for my mom and her brother. Both went to heaven a few months ago.  I stood there,  tears streaming down my face, and could hear their voices as I once did when the were with us.

It feels odd to say this, but this truly is a lovely place. I would highly recommend a visit, especially if you’re a fan of Johnny Cash. If you go, please be respectful, it is a final resting place.

Juris Doctor

    “She believed she could, so she did.”

                                                                     R.S. Grey

Last Saturday, my daughter Melody graduated from law school. She received her juris doctor from Loyola Law School. It was her life-long dream to become a lawyer. At only 23 years old, she’s accomplished her goal.

Melody’s worked very hard. She has survived years of undergraduate study, the competition to get into law school, the rigorous demands of legal academia, learning to think like a lawyer, and seeking the right position.

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To say that I’m proud of her is the biggest understatement. Her work ethic and dedication are everything.

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From what she told me, law school is no joke. The workload is immense and you’re competing with 200 or more of the hardest-working people you’ve ever met. In addition to working part-time, she had to grind out hours upon hours of book work.

Throughout all the high pressure, heavy workload, and fast-paced environment, she remained positive and upbeat. She survived law school, sanity intact. Thank you, lord.

CONGRATS, MELODY!

Why We Shouldn’t “Clear The Road” For Our Kids

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It’s not easy to say this, but part of a parent’s job is to help our kids not need us.

This became very clear to me, last week, when my daughter Christy moved to New York City.  To many, the Big Apple is a scary, fast-pace place. Christy, however, thrives in this city. New York energizes her, she says.

At 21, Christy , a recent college graduate, was able to secure a much sought-after position in New York.  She found an apartment through Craigslist, rented a car, subleased her old apartment in Tennessee, paid her bills, packed up her stuff and drove 13 hours to her new home in Brooklyn. She figured out every single detail on her own. After all, she’s an adult, and that’s what adults do.

To say that I’m proud of her and her sister, is a huge understatement. Their focus, hard work, attitude and resilience, is what I admire most.

My children were never the children who got what they want, when they want it. Each success was earned with hard work and commitment. Their work ethic is everything. Their dedication, admirable. They stick to their goals and achieve their dreams.

Parents often try so hard to create magical memories for their children to keep them happy.  In the meantime, they remove obstacles and often fail to teach qualities like character, perseverance, patience, and determination. Basically, everything that they’ll need to be happy, successful adults.

As teens, my daughters had several friends who grew up in “a bubble”. Although we lived in an extremely safe neighborhood, their friends were afraid to walk down their own street without a parent. Moms supervised their homework assignments all the way through senior year. Every teacher-student disagreement was settled by a parent. Needless to say, those kids were a hot mess in college.

I don’t believe in over-parenting. Growing up, my mom fed and clothed us and occasionally asked if we had done our homework. We knew our “job” was to work hard and do well in school. At the tender age of 12, I found a job washing dishes at a restaurant.  By 14, I was a cashier at a big box store where I remained until I graduated high school. After high school, I moved from a small town in Germany to NYC to work as an Au Pair. I was able to stand on my own two feet. This was before cell phones and internet.

I look around and wonder what happened to independent young people? These days, parents still hover as their children attend college. Here’s what I see;  a bunch of  academically overqualified teens who are under-equipped to deal with the day-to-day issues of life. Many are afraid of their own shadow.

kids graduation

Some college kids don’t even pick their own classes. Their parents do it.  It’s real and I’ve seen it. The University of Utah has built a “cry closet” for students who feel overwhelmed with finals.

Isn’t college supposed to be a place to prepare students for adulthood? Sure, even adults get overwhelmed sometimes. We cry. But we do not expect places to be built for us so we can have a public breakdown. Furthermore, employers don’t offer “cry closets”. You deal with “stuff” or you get fired. This will really give you something to cry about.

Parents of college students need to step back and let the young adults handle their own college experience. While parents might think they are acting in their kids’ best interests, they are, in fact, denying them the opportunity to look after themselves.

Let your kids deal with the broken heater in their dorm. Have them pay rent and balance their check books. Encourage them to get a job. And please, let them pick their own classes.

Pushing yourself to overcome challenge is a source of pride for most people. This is not about being perfect. When my kids achieve a goal, I congratulate them. When they fail I give them encouragement on what they did well and let them know that I believe in them. I also encourage them to try harder.

In my opinion, allowing your kids to deal with “life” is true love and true love thinks beyond instant gratification and short-lived happiness. True love values character and commitment over quick fixes.

Studies have found that when parents take over their children’s lives, the children feel more self-conscious and worried. To those kids the world must seem like a very scary place.

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The truth is your kids are longing to live so let them. If you micromanage your kids they will try  to prove to you they can do it “their way”. If your teenager feels you cannot handle the truth about their life, they will hide it from you. My kids are not afraid to tell me when they mess up. They know I believe in them and I know they will try harder next time.

Trust me, you will be a lot more influential in your teen’s decision making if you cultivate an open relationship.

When we “clear the road” for our children, we make their life too easy.  We don’t allow them to build necessary life skills they’ll so desperately need to handle the “real world”.

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Please share them in the comment section below.