Why Children Shouldn’t Be Instagram Famous

 How do you feel about Instagram famous children?

instagram famous children

Last week, I noticed an unusually “large” number of followers on my Instagram.  On average I get two followers per day. On that particular day, I gained close to 50 followers. No clue as to how and why it happened.  At first I didn’t think much of it and  followed a few accounts back. However, I soon realized that 99% of the new followers were  Insta-famous children, their account “managed by their parent”. Some as young as four with over 100k followers.  This went on for several days and the more I looked into this, the more disturbing it became.

There are so many parents out there who want their children to be Instagram famous. They post thousands of photos of their children, most of which are photo shopped. Please don’t photoshop your naturally beautiful child!

Call me old-fashioned, but kids this young shouldn’t have their own Instagram accounts.

These parents seem to be oblivious or choose to ignore the frightening fact that a lot of social media love comes from creeps. When your child has tens of thousands of followers, you have to ask yourself whether all these people have good intentions.

When I scrolled through some of these accounts, I noticed the same followers over and over again. Most of their mega fans were middle-aged men who left some really disturbing comments.

instagram famous

How creepy is this? What’s even worse is the parent’s reply : “much appreciated”.  No one should call a child ‘very sexy’ and no parent should appreciate it. Keep in mind this is the account of a five or six-year-old girl.

These parents are literally wooing and inviting the worst of humanity: child pedophiles.

The same people wouldn’t let their child walk down the street alone, yet it’s o.k. to expose them to millions of strangers on social media.

Then there are the hashtags: #BathTime, #NakedKids and #ToiletTraining.

I spoke to two police officers who said they find these images along with child pornography. Pedophiles use places like Instagram to ‘collect’ photos and to sell or trade photos of children. Sometimes these predators manipulate and photoshop, so that the head of the child is pasted onto another child’s naked body. An Australian study found roughly half of images shared on pedophile sites were taken from social media sites.

What about privacy? It’s crazy how many parents post photos of their kids on social sites with no regard to their child’s privacy now or in the future.  It’s not fair to the child to exploit their images endlessly and no 14-year-old wants their 2-year-old naked photo lingering on the internet. These children will find out that much of their private lives have been online for years.

This, however, can go beyond future embarrassment. Two years ago, an 18-year-old woman sued her parents for posting more than 500 photos of her on Facebook without her consent. The images show her in diapers, her underwear, on the potty, and even naked. I’m sure there’ll be more similar legal proceedings in the future.

Let’s be real, the toddler or small child could care less about the likes and follows. So what is the upside of being Instagram famous? Is  it all about the parent’s ego? Who benefits from the likes and follows? Not the child.

Parents should carefully consider  the long-term implications for their child of having a highly visible digital footprint.

By trying to turn your child into an Instagram star, you are giving that child an online persona before it even has chance to develop its own personality. Parents have their own identity and destinies, our children have the right to decide theirs.

Vintage Doll Clothes Made By Grandma

vintage doll clothes

vintage doll clothes

When I was a little girl (maybe 6), my grandmother made some doll clothes for me. I loved them. Especially the sparkly dress, which, in my opinion, transformed my doll into a princess.

vintage doll clothes

My grandmother (Omi) always used scraps of fabric for my doll clothes. To her, sewing was a utilitarian necessity that her frugal lifestyle required. During World War II, my grandmother had to feed and dress six children. Times were tough so she had to be creative. She made lots of practical clothes from curtains or table cloths. My Omi taught me that if I could imagine it, I could create it. Oh how much I miss this amazing woman!

vintage doll clothes

I have such happy memories of all the doll clothes, with their small buttons and tiny snaps. The fact that they were made from fabric scraps made it even better to me. I can still picture my grandmother sitting at her old sewing machine making them scrap by scrap as an act of love and devotion for me to play with.  She took the time to stitch tiny stitches just to see the joy on a little girl’s face.

vintage doll clothes

I never learned to sew doll clothes. My hobby was knitting. As a teenager I knitted complex  patterns and made hundreds of sweaters.  Later, I became interested in woodworking.

vintage doll clothes

vintage doll clothes

Less than 20 years after these doll clothes were made, I had two beautiful little girls of my own. They loved their dolls just as much as I loved mine. It was so fun seeing the girls re-discover these tiny doll clothes. I still remember sitting on the floor with them, jammed up against dresser drawers, trying on tiny pants and dresses. It was a gentle pleasure and an opportunity to dream.

vintage doll clothes

The girls are all grown up now. The doll clothes stay in a “special” box in my house. Perhaps someday another little girl or boy will know that these things are meant to be played with and loved.

 

Minimal Canvas, Photo & Art Arrangement

**I was provided a free canvas to facilitate this post. Opinions are 100% mine.**

I love clean, minimal spaces, but not completely bare walls. A simple, small wall gallery is  perfect for my home. It adds enough interest without feeling cluttered.

simple canvas wall gallery

small wall gallery

I went ahead and hung a mix of canvas, DIY art and photo frames. A home design “expert” will probably say that this is “the wrong way” to hang a wall gallery. Is there really a wrong way to display a wall gallery in ones own private home? I don’t think so. I could place art and photos on the ceiling if I wanted. My home is not an art gallery or museum  and I don’t wish to see a law about hanging art.

My goal is to display art and photos where they seem to fit best in the space.

canvas wall gallery

This canvas, for example, shows happy memories. It’s a selfie we took during our last Christmas in Chicago. Everything I love is in this photo. It puts  a smile on my face every single time.

When Canvas On The Cheap reached out and asked if I wanted to review their product I was really excited to get my first photo on canvas.  Anything on canvas always seemed expensive. So I was really surprised when I learned that Canvas On The Cheap products start as low as $7.75. It’s so easy to create your own canvas. Just upload an image and choose a size. That’s it. Mine is 16 x 20 and it only costs $17.60.

canvas wall gallery

The canvas was my large piece so I added three smaller frames. When my daughter Christy was in high school, she drew this. I love it. It’s a simple pencil sketch that makes me want to dig out my pencil case and draw.

simple canvas wall gallery

canvas wall gallery

The small framed art is from Goodwill and adds just the right amount of color. The beach photo (also from Goodwill) reminds me of all the times the kids and I visited the beach when we still lived in Los Angeles.

wall gallery

My small wall gallery is setting the mood, making a statement, and showing happy memories. Personal taste I suppose.